Dear Diary,
So, Yesterday I was leading a discussion in my Sunday School class about "Skills we Need-Conflict Resolution Skills," based on the story of Uncle Abram and Lot in Genesis 13. Certainly, conflicts are inevitable. They come in different sizes and shapes. Depending on how the are solved, conflicts have the capability of making a person wiser and/or they can also turn out to be fatal.
We shared our personal experiences and the kids turned their attention on my conflict with a certain dear friend. You should have heard the counseling they gave me: some said, "Teacher Kachel, ask him for a date to talk over it, and make sure you pay the bills." On paying the bill, they said they'll pray for me to get money for that matter. Another one, "Teacher Kachel, buy him a bar of chocolate and a card." "Teacher Kachel, you can write him a love letter." On this one I Lol'ed. "Kachel, courageous ladies talk face to face, you can do that!" Eeh, these kidoz are mature than me!
In our discussion,we talked about the causes of conflicts and the skills we need to resolve them God's way:
So, what really causes quarrels and squabbles among people? From James 4:1-2, it is Selfishness.
How are we to handle conflicts? From Uncle Abram and Lot's story, we realized that we must approach each other with mutual love, humility and respect. If you approach a person you're in conflict with from a judgemental standpoint, the person might become defensive. This certainly makes it impossible to resolve conflicts. In addition, you must make an intentional decision/initiative to approach the person you're in conflict with. Many of us we prefer to wait for the other person to make the first move. We must always be consciously aware that non-believers are watching us. They want to see God in our conflict resolutions.
Philippians 2:3-5, tells us not to act out of selfish ambitions or vain conceit but in humility, looking out for the interests of others and have a Christlike attitude.
Are you in a conflicts, quarrel and squabbles with anyone? As you purpose to reach out, this is God's way to resolve conflicts: submit yourself to God. Ask Him for wisdom and grace to solve the conflict; resist the devil or the temptation to be unforgiving and bitter; repent of your selfishness which caused the conflict; be humble before God, James 4:7-10.
Regards,
NzakuNashipae
NzakuNashipae
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