Friday, 24 July 2015

Father-Daughter Relationship in My Lenses

What's the color of my lenses

On Father’s Day 2015, I woke up feeling empty and lonely. What a manner to start off the day! As I flipped through facebook, reading through some posts for and about fathers, I noted that some of the posts were very sad while others very inspiring and worth of envy. Personally, I didn’t have anything to write about my own biological father, I felt lonely and sad! Yes, I have a father of course. I believe he is still alive somewhere and I sense he has a great family. I don’t know if he was excited about my arrival especially because there is a difference of almost 10 years between me and my elder sister. Well, I do not have those childhood memories of my relationship with him. I can’t remember if he is the one who taught me how to walk or something. I’m not sure if he ever kissed my forehead or stroked my tender cheeks. I’d wish to know if he bought me dolls, dresses and shoes. I can’t figure out if he was keen on my formative years bla bla bla.

Honestly, I was envious reading some of those facebook posts and the family photos with fathers holding their children. For once I really wanted to be with my daddy that Father’s Day morning and share some father-daughter stories and laughter...but if wishes were horses that day I’d have rode mine! However, I have a man who loves mommy and loves me too, he is such a great man, and I honor him. I sent him a happy Father’s Day message and also sent him a gift. Later in the day he called to say, “Thank you my daughter.” Aww!  That felt awesome, I had this warm glow in my heart that brightened my faceJ. Yea, I have a dad!

Where am leading at?
Recently I read some journals “The Case for Grace” by Lee Strobel and this statement caught my attention, “A young person’s relationship with his/her earthly father can greatly color his/her attitude toward God.” He further explains that some of the well-known atheists through history had felt abandoned or deeply disappointed with their fathers, making it less likely they would want to know a heavenly Father. They grew up believing that father’s hurt. Although more than enough times they have been told that they have a heavenly Father who loves them that doesn’t bring joy to them instead it brings pain because they are not able to discern the difference between a heavenly Father and an earthly father. I guess I understand and feel their pain. I remember some years back while in my primary school kids would share amazing stories about their family experiences over the weekend and those were my hardest seasons of life because a times I’d cry myself to sleep because I didn’t have a daddy to talk about with my schoolmates.

So do I have issues relating with my heavenly Father just because I didn’t have an earthly father great experiences?

Well, for many years have recited the Lord’s Prayer words, “Our Father who is in heaven...” Countless times consciously or unconsciously I pray, “Father, in Jesus name....” but really, is it mechanical-just because my Sunday school teachers taught me that I have to pray, “Father in the name of Jesus...” Did I have that intimate relationship with my heavenly Father to a point I understand what it is like to relate with Him? Is He really my Father? Does He really love me? Can I really sense His love all around me? Well, let’s just say I am beginning to understand what it is like to be an adopted daughter of the most high loving and caring Father...


This will be a story for another day, follow through. I will keep you in the loop about my ADOPTION into the Family.

With Love,
Kachel

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